• ashleybbass

      Mandie, I’m so encouraged to hear this was helpful! Yay! Even now, it’s so good to hear I’m not the only mama out there with this struggle! If you need help with sleep issues, I have a couple of posts on what helped us.

  1. Amber

    I love your story and can definitely relate to what your saying. Being a new mom I had seen my friends have a breeze and I kept asking why is it so diffeent, even my labor was traumatic. Thank you for sharing your story. ?

    • ashleybbass

      Amber, thank you for your sweet comment! It was hard for me to be vulnerable and put my story out there, so it is sooo awesome to hear that it’s helpful for other mamas. Keep up the hard work, Mama, you’re doing great. 🙂

  2. Taryn

    My goodness did I need to read this! All of my friends seem to have easy babies and make me feel like I’m doing something wrong since my baby has many bad days and hated sleep for a very long time. and what worked for them didn’t work so easily for me. Talk about discouraging. Thank you so much for sharing.

    • ashleybbass

      Taryn, I’m SO glad this was encouraging for you! I’m learning that it’s hard for others to understand when they haven’t been there. Just keep doing the best you can and enjoying your baby. You are definitely not alone!

  3. Kathleen Constant

    Oh boy can I relate to this! My DD is 28 months now but we STRUGGLED with sleep, food allergies, and SPD for the first 2 years. At 18 months I finally (4th Dr!) found a ped who would test her Ferritin levels. Turns out no anemia but also no Ferritin! She much much better on novaferrum iron suppliments. But you absolutely can try EVERYTHING and have NONE of it work! I was told I needed to Ferber (TRIED it!) and be a tougher/better mom… guess what I am an awesome mom who trusted my gut and my baby. Hang in there mamas! I will get better!! <3

  4. I absolutely LOVE this post! My son had a lot of sleep issues which made life rough. When I would talk to other moms and their little ones slept would get more frustrated. I just had my 2nd baby and already the differences are there! Every baby is different…parenting is not one size fits all!

    • ashleybbass

      So true! I’m so glad to hear that this post was encouraging for you. It makes all the difference to know there are other mamas who understand. And yay for a good sleeper!!!

  5. Angelyka James

    hey, so I just recently found out that my youngest daughter (I have three) has a milk protein allergy. I’m really looking for encouraging diets, tips, tricks, advice, anything to help me get through this, and I have read a few of your posts, and I just wanted to thank you for having the courage to write about the struggles you go through with your son.

    • ashleybbass

      Angelyka, thank you so much for that encouragement! I am so glad that my story has helped you and I hope these tips make your dairy free experience a little less challenging. I hope you continue to follow along!

  6. Kate

    Sometimes not fitting into the “box” mold is the hardest and best lesson ever! My son (although baby stage was “ok”), not talking and behavior issues made me and him so isolated. I still feel judged when a hyper active non stop 4 year old won’t sit still for 10 mins and have been told we need more discipline. We and babies and kiddos are all different and need LOTs of grace for ourselves and our babies being themselves! What a great blog! Every mom needs to read this.

    • ashleybbass

      Kate, Oh this is so encouraging. Isn’t it just great to know we aren’t alone? I can see my big guy being a lot like yours when he’s 4. You’re right, grace is the key. Thank you for the comment!

  7. Angela

    I wish I had read this 16 months ago! My darling little boy was and is the hardest baby I’ve ever known! Especially in terms of sleep/naps/car. Your story resonates so much with mine. I’m sad to say I spent the majority of his first year crying and stressing because he hated naps and the car and wondering why couldn’t I figure him out. I read and tried everything that was advised. Nothing worked.
    Baby 2 is due this summer and I’m trying so hard to have no expectations haha and to just love this baby and do what is needed.
    Thanks again!

    • ashleybbass

      Angela, thank you so much for sharing this! These are my favorite kinds of comments. It STILL gives me so much encouragement to see there are other mamas feeling this way. Congratulations on Baby #2! Yep, exactly! Just love them and do the best mommin’ you can. They are worth the struggle! You’re a good mama!

  8. Michaela

    Hi Ashley,
    I stumbled upon your post by accident, and ended up reading the whole thing! Oh my goodness, I get you! My son is turning 3 next month and he still refuses to fall asleep on his own! He is a good car napper now, but that wasn’t always the case! I remember one night in the 1st few months of his life where hubby and me drove over 40km’s and back in an effort to lull him to sleep, without success!! I tried EVERYTHING the books, the blogs, the old ladies (you know – those ancient mama’s who think they’re entitled to giving advise in this day and age!!) said, but nothing worked. I was diagnosed with PND only to find out later that it was actually just a serious case of anxiety brought on by a constantly crying infant!! Somewhere after 18 months things started getting easier. Maybe because he started to talk and walk, making him more independent, I don’t know! All I do know is that I look back at his first years and realise how much I missed, because I was so tired and frustrated! Now he entertains me with his clever remarks and giggle fits, and that makes up for him still not sleeping! We are also expecting our second, and I am already anxious about what life will hold in store this time around…
    Thank you for allowing yourself to be vulnerable, and for writing this post. I hope it will encourage a few new mama’s going through something similar! Hang in there mama, you’re doing an awesome job!

    • ashleybbass

      Michaela, I LOVE reading comments from mamas who understand this struggle! You are a strong, loving Mama. I agree, just let go of the expectations and enjoy your little ones. You’re a good mama, Mama!

  9. Jean

    Hi there! I realize this post is somewhat old, but it’s still so relevant for me! My daughter is nearly 4 months, and I’m quite certain she has a dairy sensitivity, albeit not severe. But her pediatrician has dismissed her individual symptoms without looking at them altogether. Anyway, it’s been a rough start with the same details you mention. And it is lonely! Everyone has a suggestion, and it ends up making me doubt my gut. But I’m learning to listen to my baby instead of others who don’t know her as I just figure out what works for us. It’s a true comfort to know I’m not the only new mama who’s life still isn’t put back together the way it’s “supposed” to be. Thank you for sharing your experiences and lifting other mamas! Solidarity is everything.

    • Ashley

      Jean, I am SO glad you left this comment! I totally agree and even STILL it is incredibly encouraging for me to hear other moms’ stories who have been through similar struggles. You are doing great. Go with your gut, love on that baby, and just let yourself enjoy being Mama.

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